Death & Mourning

Congregation Beth El is committed to providing support, care, and guidance to our members and their families experiencing loss. At the time of passing, congregants are encouraged to contact Rabbi Kahn or Rabbi Stern for end-of-life guidance and support. Beth El also offers our support by:

  • emailing information about funeral and shiva arrangements to members;
  • arranging for our Rabbis and layleaders to lead the shiva minyan; and
  • delivering prayer books to the home.

On the anniversary of a loved ones' death, Kaddish can be said during any Shabbat service. Yahrzeit reminders will be sent to Congregation members in advance of the specific Shabbat. We welcome anyone who is in mourning to say Kaddish with us.

The Tel Shalom Burial Association has been burying our loved ones since
1968 in the Tel Shalom section of Rolling Hills Memorial Park in
Richmond (4100 Hilltop Drive, Richmond, CA 94803).Jewish members of the
community, regardless of denomination or synagogue affiliation, may be
buried there.

The future of Tel Shalom will be in our new section within the large
Jewish Cemetery called Gan Shalom (1100 Bear Creek Road, Briones, CA
94553), which is run by Sinai Memorial Chapel in Lafayette, CA.Burial in
the Tel Shalom section at Gan Shalom is limited to members of
Congregation Beth El or Temple Beth Hillel, however any Jewish person
can be buried in one of the many other sections at Gan Shalom if they
desire to be in a Jewish cemetery.

One of the most stressful issues when there is a death in the family is
planning the burial. Visiting the cemetery, picking out a gravesite,
paperwork, money transactions, etc., while one is grieving, are all
unnecessary stressors and time burdens, and avoidable for those who plan
ahead. Now is the best time to do your pre-need planning, while you are
still healthy and can make unhurried and informed decisions.

For further questions and assistance about pre-need burial planning,
please call one of us below. As always, for any questions surrounding
the spiritual and/or ritual nature of death and dying, please do not
hesitate to call Rabbi Yoel Kahn or Rabbi Rebekah Stern through the
Congregation Beth El office.

For information about purchasing plots at Tel Shalom, either at Rolling
Hills or at Gan Shalom, please call:

Fran Welstand (Beth Hillel), Tel Shalom Secretary, 510-758-2873

Sharon Mittleman (Beth Hillel), Tel Shalom Board, 510-245-7401

Rich Aptaker (Beth El), Chair, Tel Shalom Burial Association, 510-236-4857

Other Tel Shalom Board Members: Emily Marthinsen, Martin Dodd, Andy
Ganes (of Beth El)

Bobbi Nadler, Louise Snitz (of Beth Hillel)